Have you heard of the power of positive affirmations? The concept is simple but powerful. An affirmation is a positive statement meant to bring about beneficial results. Some people use them to manifest their desires. Others create affirmations as a way of improving their confidence and outlook on life. These statements are short, concise, positive, and focus on the present. Examples include, “I am strong and capable.”, “Good fortune comes my way.”, and, “I radiate positivity everywhere I go.” The point of such affirmations is to repeat them regularly in order to make them a reality. Positive affirmations have been shown to work, and from my personal experience, affirmations can help set the tone for your day. Take a look at the benefits of affirmations and how you can use them to silence your inner critic.
When you’re focused on the repetition of...
Setting and reaching goals is important and is a dominate feature of A Pilgrimage to Self Lifestyle Coaching Membership. It keeps you moving forward in life, rather than remaining stagnant. Striving for your dreams helps to motivate you and improves your overall outlook on life...going from the ordinary to the extraordinary. Anyone who’s made a New Year’s resolution, however, understands that goals can be overwhelmingly difficult to achieve. Add your inner critic into the mix, and it’s no surprise you sometimes feel like you’ll never find success. It doesn’t have to be that way, though. With proper planning and progress checks through the creation of milestones, your chances of success increase greatly.
Read on to find why adding milestones to your plan will help you to achieve your goals and silence your negative self-talk.
A milestone is merely a check-in point on the...
You know now that your inner critic does not offer constructive criticism. It gives you the exact opposite, spouting untruths and exaggerations that are meant to keep you in your place. Listening to your own negative self-talk is self-defeating. Giving into that voice will never allow you to move ahead. That’s why it’s so important to take small steps toward overcoming it. Recognizing self-sabotaging behavior is a big step toward stopping it in its tracks. Keep these things in mind when your inner critic starts acting up.
Pay Attention to Your Feelings
How you think has a direct and strong effect on how you feel, which then translates into your actions. Pay attention to your mood. If you’re experiencing any kind of negative emotion, that’s a key sign that you should take care with your thoughts. Feelings of sadness, anger, or anxiety will definitely influence that inner critic of yours. Listening to...
Perfectionism is a friend of your inner critic. Like fear and insecurity, it fuels the flames of your negative self-talk; working to convince you you’ll never be good enough to achieve your dreams. If you have a tendency to be a perfectionist, you probably understand all too well the cycle of starting something only to give up because it will never be up to your own standards or others won’t approve. That is, if you even get started. Perfectionism can keep us from even trying at all. There are ways you can work to keep your inner perfectionist in check.
Here’s a post I wrote about my own perfectionism: https://www.ahousewithfourrooms.com/blog/recovering-perfectionist
Just follow these tips, and you’ll soon be free of this trap.
Experiment with Good Enough
This first one may be pretty difficult for you if you’re a hard-core perfectionist but hear me out. Try to be satisfied with good enough and...
One of the emotions your inner critic preys upon most is fear. If you’re afraid, you won’t even try and you’ll be safe. At least, that’s the rationale. That’s why it’s so hard to shut that mean internal voice up sometimes. Hopefully, by this point in our journey, you’re starting to feel comfortable and confident in managing your internal critic. Today, I’d like to address ways to push past the fear that may still creep in every now and again. Check out my tips below.
Get Comfortable with Discomfort
One reason we often listen to our inner critic and fall back into old habits, rather than going for what we actually want, is because the familiar simply feels better in the moment. Sure, we may later regret letting our insecurity hold us back, but it sure feels better at the time to avoid taking that risk. When you’re battling your negative self-talk, it’s essential that you...
Getting in the habit of addressing your inner critic can be really tough. As they say, old habits die hard. That’s because we become so used to doing things a certain way that it usually doesn’t occur to us to do them any differently. By the time we decide a change is needed, it takes serious effort to break long-held, ingrained habits. This is true of your inner critic. You’ve gotten used to hearing and believing its messages. Ignoring or refuting those words will take time. But, as with most habits, it does get easier with practice. You can break habits on your own or you can seek out help with a coach.
Keep reading, and I’ll tell you why ignoring or refuting your Inner Critic will get easier in time.
Your Brain Creates New Paths
One very real reason new habits, including silencing your inner critic, get easier with time is because your brain creates new neural paths the more you...
I’ve mentioned the concept of momentum many times throughout this challenge, my blog posts, and my lifestyle coaching program, A Pilgrimage to Self because it’s powerful. Momentum is important because it’s such a key component to changing your self-talk. In fact, it’s essential to changing any habit and achieving goals. Momentum, in this case, is the combined forward actions that build upon each other. As that force continues to move, it gets stronger. That’s why, once you start something new and practice it regularly, it becomes easier. Read more below about the power of momentum in silencing your inner critic.
Small Successes Build
When you start to confront your inner critic and work to change your self-talk, you’re exerting a new force in your life. Just as it becomes easier to move an object once you get some force behind it and build momentum, new habits such as dealing...
Sometimes there’s more than our own perceptions influencing that voice inside our heads. We have a lifetime of experiences that have contributed to who we are. It only makes sense that our interactions with the people in our lives would have an influence on the messages we give ourselves. This is likely true of you. If you think about it, can you name one or more people who have sent you negative messages over the course of your life? That’s what happened to me as I grew up with negative messages from the adult that were suppose to be my caregivers and role models. When this happens, we internalize these words and make them a part of our being. Overcoming the negative influence of past experiences takes a lot of work. Use these tips to help you along the path.
Recognize Past Influences
First, it’s important that you become aware of past influences and how they’ve affected your self-talk. This...
Our inner critic tends to drag us down. It makes us feel bad, and we may find ourselves constantly battling it. What if you took a different approach instead? Consider what would happen if you were to embrace that internal voice that sabotages you. It will take some practice, but you can approach things with an entirely new mindset. Think about what would happen if you replace your internal critic with excitement instead of dread. Follow these tips to give it a try.
Accept Your Inner Critic
The first step is to accept that your inner critic exists. You can learn to manage it, but it will likely always be a part of you. So why not accept it as an aspect of who you are? Once you do, you can begin to look at this voice in a new light. Rather than seeing it as something negative to be feared or hated, you can begin to look at your inner critic with a more neutral attitude.
Next, it’s important that you take time for...
Shutting up your inner critic can feel like a monumental task. This is especially true if you’ve spent a lifetime giving into and believing this negative self-talk. Breaking through internalized beliefs and ingrained habits is one of the toughest things to do. That’s why so many of us simply give up on making changes. Whether it’s going to the gym or silencing your inner bully, ditching old habits is something that isn’t easy. As with most difficult tasks, though, quieting your inner critic can be made simpler when you break it down into small chunks. Take a few baby steps, and you’ll start to notice your inner critic disappear.
Baby Steps are Less Stressful
Baby steps are an excellent way to overcome the hurdle of approaching an intimidating task. Trying something new, taking a risk, or making a life change are all really big deals. It’s no wonder so many of us let our inner critic...
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