I have been sharing stepping stones or lessons about building confidence from my coaching program, A Pilgrimage to Self, in this series of blogs. Let’s take a quick walk down memory lane and browse through all the different topics we covered over the past 29 days. Here’s a quick rundown:
There are times when the term ‘fake it ‘till you make it’ really comes in handy. When you are in the dreaming stages, anything is possible, even when nothing is real at the moment and I believe in dreaming and living large! Social media is a great way to be inspired by the lives and actions of others. One social media platform, Pinterest, is an excellent way to build your confidence.
Pinterest uses images that inspire, ignite creativity, and engage the viewer. Usually the ‘pins’ include active links to blog posts, recipes, or land somewhere that has value. You can organize your pins into folders that represent anything you can conceive. Pinterest is a great tool to gather inspiration into one space and use the imagery to motivate, set goals, teach, and organize thoughts.
Getting a clear vision:
In the self-help world, vision boards are a visual way to display images that represent what the...
Nothing much can get in between someone who is championing a cause...ask me how I know...I go "all in" and passion takes over. Whether personal or global, having a purpose and setting goals to achieve it is a powerful thing. The drive it takes to power through and achieve the outcome builds unshakable confidence along the way.
Working goals for a purpose creates:
These are game-changing qualities that shift mindsets and abilities from average to extraordinary. People who have developed these sorts of skills are not wall flowers. Their grit and determination levels them up to a new playing field.
Sometimes the goals are set by you:
Sometimes you want change so badly, you set goals that require you to dig deep and do hard things to accomplish the quest. If you'd like to be in on this quest with me, sign up for the VIP Waitlist for my coaching program: A Pilgrimage to...
If you struggle with confidence, being bold and assertive may seem as far away from your personality than the East is from the West. But, would you like to be bolder and more assertive? There are clear benefits to being able to articulate what you prefer and stand up for yourself when you feel overwhelmed. Before we look at how to practice being bold and assertive, let’s look at what being bold and assertive looks like as a whole.
Being bold and assertive looks like:
Knowing who you are- People can recognize the confidence in a bold and assertive person. That comes from knowing who you are. Being confident in your own skin shines outward as bold and assertive confidence. Knowing your worth, value, preferences, and dislikes makes it clear to others how to be in relationship with you.
Voicing your opinion- Bold and assertive people are great at sharing their opinions. The key being: sharing healthy viewpoints in...
The philosophy of A House With Four Rooms is to do something daily for your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, and living this philosophy has extra benefits as the good spills into every area of your life. For example, there are undeniable health benefits that come from clean eating and meaningful exercise, but did you know eating right and moving will improve your confidence? More than improving your physical health, a good diet and healthy movement improve your self-image. The changes that occur inside and out have a domino effect that spills over from looking better in clothing, having more stamina and agility, to enhanced self-esteem and confidence.
People notice- The rule of thumb is 10 pounds lighter, you notice. 20 pounds lighter, everyone notices. As you lose, people notice the effort and the results you are achieving. Everyone is inspired by someone who is winning the...
Aaron Tippin was a country music artist in the 1990’s who had a hit with the song You’ve Got to Stand for Something. The chorus of the song simply stated:
“He'd say you've got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything
You've got to be your own man, not a puppet on a string
Never compromise what's right and uphold your family name
You've got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything”
Tippin was onto something with this song. He was right, you’ve got to stand for something. Standing for something creates confidence, conviction, and the line in the sand that says this is what I believe in.
Here are some of the amazing things that come from having a personal platform:
You make an impact- When you are convicted and take a stand on something, you are going to make an impact. Whether it’s by volunteering, donating, or working...
Confidence, just like happiness, is an inside game. True confidence comes from a sincere acceptance and love for yourself that isn’t influenced by outside forces. From the inside out, you love and appreciate who and what you are as it ever-evolves into something better. Loving yourself in this way creates space for nurturing when you aren’t feeling your best because no one better than you knows what you need.
Even the most confident people have bad days. From physical aches and pains to emotional stress, confidence doesn’t excuse you from life’s little setbacks. Confidence does, however, make taking care of yourself a bit easier. This is where self-care comes in.
Self-care is the art of nurturing and participating in activities that promote wellness, restoration, and balance. Self-care includes, but isn’t limited to, beauty, hygiene, personal interests, artistic outlets, mental health,...
I learned early on that shame is one of the biggest confidence busters. Being ashamed of something we think we are or did is crippling. The weight of guilt and condemnation is oppressive, and it zaps any confidence we had. It makes it nearly impossible to have healthy relationships because we mask who we really are and are susceptible to being taken advantage of and manipulated.
Because shame makes us feel
This state of being creates chaos in our minds and tells us we deserve less than we hope for. Shame whispers that we are not enough, can’t be forgiven, and don’t deserve love. That is a dangerous place to be.
The antidote is forgiveness.
Learning to forgive yourself is a great act of self-love. Forgiveness opens the way for shame to leave. Forgiveness accepts that bad things happen whether meant for harm or by accident and that all things have...
If you are a grab-the-bull-by-the-horns sort, when you get motivated, you are ready to take some action! That’s a great place to be and it’s important to know what you can do to get traction. If you’ve been reading my blogs each day, then you are likely raring to get started feeling better about yourself right now.
If you've been reading the blog or following us on social media, then you know my Lifestyle Coaching program, A Pilgrimage to Self, will be having open enrollment on September 23rd for our fall program starting October 1st. You probably also know that the content I share in this blog, Just a thought..., is from the coaching program; I like to call the blog stepping stones from the PATHS of A Pilgrimage to Self Lifestyle Coaching Membership because it's all about discovering, designing, and developing an Intentional Life. Members take a sacred journey within to reconnect to their...
The power of five...we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. We are also the sum of the five foods we eat most often, the five books we’ve last read, and the five ways we recreate...the power of five,
Expand this to the five ways we engage and interact with social media. Are you a Facebooker, Instagrammer, Snap Chatter, Marco Polo fanimal, and Pinterest junkie? How you operate in the social media world and what you post, share, look at, and comment on directly impacts your mood, your confidence, and your impact on the world.
As a teacher, life coach, success mentor, mom, grandmother, blogger, entrepreneur, etc., I want to post inspirational, encouraging, and supportive items. I also use social media to promote my message and business. I use social media to reach my audience, share my blog posts, ebooks, ecourses, and lifestyle membership. I try to be intentional with my social...
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