Getting a handle on your inner critic involves awareness, confidence, and planning. When new members begin A Pilgrimage to Self Lifestyle Coaching Membership, they walk the PATHS of Self-Awareness, Mindfulness, and Gratitude to become more aware of their own journey. Once you become aware of your patterns of negative self-thought, you can work to turn that thinking around to something more useful. You’ll then feel better about yourself, and your confidence is likely to soar once you’re able to let go of all that self-loathing commentary. You’ll begin to develop a plan for dealing with the negativity for good. All of this is a process, though. It requires some time and organization. Check out the tips below to create your own plan for dealing with your most critical thoughts.
Some Criticism is Good
First, it’s important to understand that some criticism is good. Constructive criticism can actually help...
They say we’re often our own harshest critics, and this is certainly true in many circumstances. The inner voice that is only too happy to dole out the criticism is never very nice about it, that’s for sure. When you’re listening to your inner critic, it’s easy to lose perspective. The negative, harsh messages you receive can truly hurt, and they usually remain in place for a long time. A good way to manage that voice and turn things around is to reframe the words you tell yourself. Instead of being mean and insensitive in your messages, try to consider what you would say to a friend instead. Take a look below to see what I mean.
Take time to break down the messages you’re sending yourself. Is there a way you can rephrase these things so that they’re gentler? That would be a great start toward overcoming the toxic effects of your inner critic. For example, pay attention to words like...
A big problem with your inner critic is that it sometimes never shuts up. Once you start having intrusive thoughts, they tend to ramble on and on. In fact, these pervasive messages can feed off of each other until they become a constant barrage of criticism that leaves you doubting yourself and feeling stuck. The good news is that you have the power to stop these negative thoughts from spiraling out of control and taking over. Follow these tips to take charge of your thinking and get yourself back on track toward your goals.
Recognize What Isn’t True
First things first. You absolutely must learn to figure out what is and what isn’t true when these nagging thoughts creep in. As I’ve recommended in past articles, it’s always wise to look for patterns. If you keep telling yourself mean things over and over, chances are good that these things are rooted in your subconscious. They’re...
Recognizing your inner critic and the factors that contribute to its strength is important to defeating these negative influences that can hold you back. This is an important topic we’ve touched upon in our journey so far. However, you may still be unsure of just how to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings. Emotions such as self-doubt are ingrained in us from a young age. Therefore, it can be really hard to notice them when they rear their ugly heads. One way to gain insight and recognition is through journaling. Take a look at how this tool can help you to understand yourself better and to kick negative thoughts to the curb.
Journaling is simply taking a set amount of quiet time to write down your thoughts. This can be with a pen and paper, in a word processing program, through an app, or any other type of electronic medium. You might want to have a fancy bound journal or a particular...
Self-doubt is a common issue discussed by those who battle their inner critic regularly. The nagging belief that you’re not good enough or that you can’t succeed is incredibly pervasive. It can become internalized and hold you back from many of your most desired goals. It’s a self-defeating belief that can even be used as a coping mechanism to keep you from trying the things that scare you. Read on to learn more about self-doubt and what you can do to overcome it.
Self-doubt is a self-sabotaging and nagging voice inside your head that is repetitive and negative. While you may not hear actual words playing over and over again in your mind, you likely experience emotions related to the internal messages you are giving yourself. It’s possible, also, that others may have stoked your self-doubt. This can be a parent, spouse, teacher, coach, or other close personal...
In today’s post, we’ll expand upon the concept that was introduced yesterday, which is how to recognize your inner critic. After all, if you don’t know when this mean and negative internal voice is sabotaging you, how can you fight it? While everyone’s critic is different, there are some commonalities you can observe to give you the heads up that you may be telling yourself some things that aren’t true. Be aware of these patterns in order to recognize your inner critic.
Your inner critic definitely isn’t nice. That’s obvious. However, this voice tends to go beyond just being unkind. It can be downright mean. When you notice yourself having thoughts that are particularly harsh, take note. It’s probably your inner critic. It’s okay to give yourself some constructive criticism and to strive to do better sometimes, but this type of critical message usually isn’t the...
Who Is This Inner Critic?
If you've been following my blog for a while, you know that I share the lessons from A Pilgrimage to Self Lifestyle Membership in the posts because the program follows the philosophy of the Indian Proverb, A House With Four Rooms...it's the very foundation of the program to help you discover, design, and develop an Intentional Life.
If this is your first time to the blog: Hello and welcome to 'Shut Up Your Inner Critic: a 30-Day Challenge to Get Over Self-Doubt.' Chances are good you have some idea about what an inner critic is. Most of us deal with this nagging inner voice that often keeps us from living up to our potential. I have the voices of several critics that try to interfere with my Intentional Life, so I'm grateful for learning how to quiet them all down and lean into my authentic self and the God Whispers for the guidance I seek. However, each person's inner critic is different.
Therefore, overcoming its effects must...
Do you have a role in the workforce? Are you operating from a degree you earned in college, trade school, or a certification program? Have you taken the entrepreneurial route and blazed your own trail, or have you inherited your gig from a family line of business? When did you begin this career? How’s it going so far?
Those are a lot of questions and not usually the sort of thing people ask regularly. Everyone has an origins story of how they started working or doing what they do. They may have gone after it with the full intention or they may have stumbled and fallen into it unexpectedly. The biggest question for anyone is: How happy are you in your current career and could changing your career change your life?
Our working years are some of the longest on our journey. Getting our education, raising a family, and retirement isn’t usually longer than our career. Our work history is generally a significant...
In 1991, Reba McEntire released the hit song Is There Life Out There? This song became an anthem for women all over the world who didn’t want to leave the life they had - married, children, and all that comes with it - but they wanted to know if there truly was something outside of their family and their home.
Her lyrics go like this:
She married when she was twenty
She thought she was ready
Now she's not so sure
She thought she'd done some living
But now she's just wonderin'
What she's living for
Now she's feeling that there's something more
Is there life out there?
So much she hasn't done
Is there life beyond?
Her family and her home
She's done what she should
Should she do what she dares?
She doesn't want to leave
She's just wonderin’
Is there life out there?
Can you relate to this?
If you are experiencing the pangs of what might have been or longing for something you know will make your...
You’ve probably been the recipient of a random act of kindness in your lifetime; I know I have. Take a moment to think back to an instance in which someone has helped you out of a tough situation when they could see you were having difficulty or when a friend simply paid you a compliment out of the blue. A sweet surprise like this can really make a difference; it has the power to lift your mood and change your perspective on your day...even your life.
Did you also know such experiences can also be good for your health and overall well-being? It’s true. A random act of kindness can be a good deed, caring word, selfless act or small gift. Even a smile can brighten someone’s day. Take a look at some of the benefits of random acts of kindness.
Doing something nice for someone else can make you feel grateful for your blessings. This is especially true when the recipient of your act is...
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